Focus on HOW Not Just WHAT You Feed Your Kids

Are you overly focused on WHAT your kids are eating instead of thinking about HOW they're eating?

WHY THIS MATTERS

Understanding the significance of not just what we feed our children but also how we feed them can profoundly shape their relationship with food, fostering healthier habits and reducing mealtime stress.

The Transition Phase: A Crucial Time

When my first baby transitioned from breast feeding to solid foods, I realized the importance of this phase.

This transition is a time when we can influence our children's relationship with food and help them develop habits (ones that will carry with them into adolescents and even adulthood). The literature supports this critical period; highlighting that how we approach feeding can shape lifelong behaviors and attitudes towards food.

The Confusion and Contradiction of Nutritional Advice

After realizing this, I knew that I had to do things differently. And with my first child, it seemed to work well. She was an adventurous eater, and I thought I had this all figured out.

However, my second child had different food preferences, and I felt confused and overwhelmed. Why wasn't this working anymore? I thought I knew what I was doing!

So, I started looking beyond the literature and sought advice. The problem is that advice is often conflicting.

"Kids like sweet foods, start with fruit."

"Don't start with fruit or your kids will only want sweet foods.

Start with Vegetables."

"Fruits ... vegetables ... doesn't really matter.

Just don't forget about iron rich foods."

"It doesn't matter what you start with, just be sure

to give them lots of flavors all at once."

"What?! NO WAY. Only one food at a time or you'll miss allergies."

And on and on and on.

The contradictions made it impossible to follow all the advice, which just left me feeling more confused and like I was failing. All the time.

The Role of Reliable Information

A 2019 qualitative study of first-time parents highlighted these challenges¹. During the transition to solid foods, this study found that mothers - often identified as having sole responsibility for their child’s food intake - were overwhelmed by the need to do the "right" thing in the "right" way.

Reliable information was crucial, yet the abundance of conflicting advice created insecurity and confusion.

Insights from Recent Research

But we shouldn't lose hope. A 2022 randomized trial involving 246 first-time mothers and their infants² provides valuable insights about how to deal with this.

The study compared four groups: one focused on exposing children to a variety of fruits and vegetables (the "what" group), another on responsive feeding practices (the "how" group), a third combining both approaches ("what" and "how"), and a fourth control group.

The findings were clear: focusing on how you feed your children, or a combination of how and what, led to more sensitive feeding behaviors and less pressure to eat.

Four Strategies to Focus on How You Feed Your Kids

So how can you learn from these findings and ensure that you shift your focus from solely thinking about WHAT you feed your kiddos? Here are my suggestions.

1. Reflect on Your Family's Values: Think about what you and your partner value and how these values can be reflected in your mealtime decisions and discussions about food.

2. Envision Your Future Eater: Consider what kind of eater you want your child to be in the future. Focus on fostering a positive relationship with food rather than just specific eating habits. (And remember, introducing new foods to kids takes time and patience!)

3. Clarify Roles and Responsibilities: Be clear about your role in deciding what foods come into the home and when they are served, and your child’s role in deciding how much to eat. This aligns with Ellen Satter's division of responsibility.

4. Keep the Big Picture in Mind: Understand that children’s appetites vary day-to-day. Focus on consistent messaging and behaviors over time rather than stressing about what happens at any individual meal.

CONCLUSION

While what you feed your children is important, how you approach feeding them is equally, if not more, crucial for developing healthy eating habits. Consistent, positive mealtime practices can significantly influence their lifelong relationship with food.

Call to Action

I want to hear from you! What tips do you have for keeping the big picture in mind and helping your kids develop a lifelong positive relationship with food? Head over to Instagram, LinkedIn or You Tube and let me know!

References

¹ Norlyk, A. et al. Infants' transition from milk to solid foods - the lived experience of first-time parents. Int. J Qual Studies on Health & Wellbeing. 2019. 14. https://doi.org/10.1080/17482631.2019.1693483

² van Vliet, MS., et al. The Baby's First Bites RCT: Evaluating a Vegetable-Exposure and a Sensitive-Feeding Intervention in Terms of Child Health Outcomes and Maternal Feeding Behavior During Toddlerhood. J Nutr 2022.152: 386-398

5 Strategies to Foster Healthy Eating Habits in Children

As a parent, you have the power to shape your child's eating habits and set the foundation for a lifetime of healthy choices. But how can you effectively influence their relationship with food?

WHY THIS MATTERS

Understanding and implementing supportive food parenting practices can significantly impact your child's health, behavior, and overall well-being.

INTRODUCTION

I am often asked, "What is the best thing I can do to help my kids become healthy eaters?" The truth is, there isn't a one-size-fits-all answer because our eating habits are shaped by a variety of internal and external factors. However, there are several proven strategies that can make a significant difference.

Today, I want to share five key actions you can take *at home* to support your children becoming healthy eaters.

5 TIPS FOR YOUR HOME

1. Make Healthy Foods Accessible and Available

It's crucial to understand the difference between making foods available and accessible. Availability means having healthy options like fruits and vegetables in your home, while accessibility means ensuring these foods are within easy reach for your kids. A systematic review found that both availability and accessibility of healthy foods are linked to higher consumption of fruits and vegetables among children and adults¹.

Practical Tips

Keep fruits and vegetables visible and easy to grab.
Store healthy snacks at eye level in the fridge or pantry (rather than those you want to discourage consumption of!).
Limit the availability of energy-dense, nutrient-poor foods like sugary snacks and drinks.

2. Provide Repeated Exposure to New Foods

Introducing new foods multiple times is key to helping children accept and enjoy them. Research shows that children's initial reluctance to try new foods is normal and often resolves with age. A study tracking 120 children over nine years found that many experienced phases of picky eating, particularly before age three, which often improved by age six².

Knowing that this is an expected phase of childhood can help you stay calm if (or when!) your previously adventurous eater suddenly puts her foot down about vegetables. Remember that your job is to keep offering.

Practical Tips

Offer new foods regularly without pressuring your child to eat them.
Be patient and persistent, understanding that it may take several exposures before a child accepts a new food.
Create a positive mealtime environment where trying new foods is encouraged but not forced.

3. Use Supportive Food Parenting Practices

Food parenting practices encompass the behaviors used by parents to influence their child’s behaviors, attitudes, or beliefs around food and eating.

These can either be supportive or coercive.

Supportive food parenting practices foster autonomy and a positive attitude towards food. These include encouraging variety and balance without pressuring children to eat or using food as a reward or punishment.

Coercive practices, such as forcing a child to eat or restricting certain foods, can lead to unhealthy eating behaviors and emotional issues.

A longitudinal study of 173 9-year-olds found that tightly restricting a child’s food intake resulted in an increased desire for energy-dense, nutrient-poor foods and was associated with kids eating in the absence of hunger³.

Practical Tips

- Encourage balance and variety in your child's diet.
- Avoid making comments about your child's eating habits.
- Don't use food as a reward or punishment.

4. Model Healthy Eating Behaviors

Children learn by observing their parents. Studies consistently show a positive correlation between parents' and children's eating habits. When parents model healthy eating behaviors, children are more likely to adopt these habits themselves.

If you want your kids to eat fruits and vegetables, they have to see you do it. If you want your kids to drink enough water, be willing to try new foods, love tacos, bake cookies, eat a balanced diet … they have to see you do that as well.

Various cross-sectional studies^4-6 have shown a positive correlation between parents’ food intake and their child's. Because these studies are cross-sectional we cannot make statements about causality, but in the literature there is consistently an association between what you eat and what your kids do.

Practical Tips

Eat a variety of healthy foods in front of your children.
Drink water and avoid sugary beverages.
Try new foods with your children to show that it's okay to be curious and adventurous with food.

5. Have Family Meals

Regular family meals are associated with numerous positive outcomes.

In a meta-analysis of more than 180,000 kids⁷, children and adolescents who share family meals 3 or more times per week are more likely to be in a normal weight range and have healthier dietary and eating patterns than those who share fewer than 3 family meals together.

But it's not just their diet and health that benefitted. Eating family meals has been associated with lower rates of substance abuse, depression, and disordered eating as well as higher levels of self-esteem and self-efficacy⁸.

How do family meals help?

Another recent meta analysis provides some clues. In a systematic review of 49,000 individuals, positive associations consistently emerged between 5 components and children's nutritional health: Turning the TV off during meals, parental modeling of healthy eating, higher food quality, positive atmosphere, children's involvement in meal preparation, and longer meal duration⁹.

Shared meals provide a time for open communication and bonding, which can enhance a child's overall well-being.

Practical Tips

Aim to have family meals at least three times a week.
Focus on the quality of the time spent together rather than the time of day.
Use mealtimes to discuss the day's events and foster a supportive family environment.

CONCLUSION

By making healthy foods accessible, providing repeated exposures to new foods, using supportive parenting practices, modeling healthy behaviors, and having family meals, you can significantly influence your child's eating habits and overall health. Implementing these strategies can help create a positive and lasting relationship with food for your child.

REFERENCES

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4. Hansson, L.M.; Heitmann, B.L.; Larsson, C.; Tynelius, P.; Willmer, M.; Rasmussen, F. Associations between Swedish Mothers’ and 3- and 5-Year-Old Children’s Food Intake. J. Nutr. Educ. Behav. 2016, 48, 520–529.

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9. Dallacker, M. Hertwig, R, Mata, J. Quality matters: A meta-analysis on components of healthy family meals. Health Psychol. 2019 Dec;38(12):1137-1149. doi: 10.1037/hea0000801.Epub 2019 Sep 26. PMID: 31556657. DOI: 10.1037/hea0000801

Stress-Free Meal Planning: 5 Tips for Busy Families

Meal planning can be a lifesaver for busy moms, reducing stress and ensuring that healthy, delicious meals are always on the table. Here are my top tips to make meal planning a breeze, even on your busiest days.

Why It Matters

We all know that sinking feeling when the kids ask, "What's for dinner?" and you haven't had time to plan. For busy moms, meal planning isn't just a time-saver; it's a sanity-saver. By spending a little time planning ahead, you can avoid the last-minute scramble and ensure your family enjoys nutritious meals all week long.

Top Meal Planning Tips

1. Look at Your Calendar

Before you start planning meals for the week, take a look at your calendar. Are there late meetings, kids' practices, or other commitments? Planning meals around your schedule helps you avoid ambitious cooking on nights when you have little time or energy.

I once planned an elaborate meal on a night when I had a late meeting, and both kids had activities on opposite ends of town. Now, I always check our schedule first to avoid such stress.

2. Clean Out Your Fridge

Before meal planning, take stock of what you already have. Eating leftovers and using up what’s in the fridge prevents waste and saves money.

I love going grocery shopping with an empty fridge. It feels great to know we're not wasting food and I'm not buying unnecessary items.

3. Take Stock of Fresh Foods and Pantry Staples

Check what fresh foods you have left from last week and what staples are in your pantry. This helps you plan meals that use up what you already have and avoid overbuying.

If I have fresh veggies from last week, I plan meals around them to make sure they don’t go to waste. Similarly, knowing I have plenty of pasta means I won’t buy more unnecessarily.

4. Use Broad Meal Categories

Think in terms of meal categories rather than specific dishes. This flexibility makes planning easier and allows you to be creative with what you have on hand.

Tuesdays are always pasta nights at our house. This way, I know what type of meal to prepare, but I can be creative with the ingredients and experiment with new recipes.

5. Double Up and Plan for Leftovers

When you have time, cook double portions or make parts of meals ahead of time. This saves time later in the week when you're busier.

If I’m making rice one night, I’ll cook extra to use for fried rice later in the week. It’s a simple way to make meal prep easier on busy days.

Additional Tips for Stress-Free Meal Planning

Some additional tips to help make meal planning a little easier:

Consider Prep Time: On nights when you have more time, prepare parts of meals in advance. For example, chop or sauté vegetables or cook grains ahead of time. You can even make entire meals, if you know how to best reheat them.
Plan Flexibility: Always include a flexible night into your plan. This could be takeout or a simple meal that you can move around as needed. Then, if you're just too tired or your best friend invites the family for dinner you can move what you do have around without stressing about the consequences.
Incorporate Family Favorites: Include meals - or at least portions of meals - that everyone loves to ensure dinner time is enjoyable and stress-free for the whole family.

My son loves peas and carrots. (Of all things!) So when I'm considering what vegetables to have, if we're having ones that I know are not his favorite, I will thaw some frozen peas or cut up raw carrots so that he has a veggie he likes as well.
I still serve the others, but I'll add these too.

Why These Tips Work

These strategies help reduce the daily stress of meal preparation, making it easier to provide healthy, delicious meals for your family. By planning ahead and being flexible, you can handle the busiest weeks with ease.

Meal planning doesn't have to be a daunting task. By following these simple tips, you can create a stress-free routine that keeps your family well-fed and happy. Give these strategies a try and see how much easier your weeknights can become!

When Parenting Food Styles Clash

Different parenting and feeding styles between partners can lead to frustration and conflict.

Key Takeaway: Parenting is a team effort. Through open communication and finding common ground, you can navigate differences and build a supportive family dynamic.

The (infamous) Pizza Story

During a recent keynote, I shared a story about leaving town for four nights. As a control freak, I left elaborate meal plans for my husband (who absolutely did not need them, BTW). When I returned, my 6-year-old excitedly informed me “Dad let us have pizza three nights in a row!”

Common Challenge

Differing parenting and feeding styles between partners is a common challenge. Several women approached me after the keynote, sharing similar experiences of trying to maintain meal plans while their partners far more often opted for easier solutions like pizza.

Embracing Different Approaches

I want to emphasize that I have an incredible partner who supports my efforts to raise happy, healthy, conscientious eaters. When you have three kids under five and are solo parenting for several nights, relying on pizza is understandable and okay.

But in the long-run, differences can be difficult to navigate. So what do you do when you and your partner have different approaches to feeding the kids? Here's what worked for us:

1. Communication is Key: Have an open conversation about why meal plans matter to you and understand your partner's perspective.

A Few Key Questions to Consider:

What are your goals with meal planning?

What are your partner's preferences or concerns?

Which aspects are we willing to compromise on?

What do each of our children need?

What are our long-term goals for our children’s eating habits?

What part of mealtime causes the most stress for us?

2. Find Common Ground: Frameworks like Venn diagrams can help identify overlapping goals and create a collaborative plan.

Elements of the process:

List your goals and your partner's goals.
Highlight where they overlap and build from there.
Rank your goals in order of importance and find common priorities.
Define clear, shared objectives that both partners agree on.
Develop a step-by-step plan to achieve your shared goals, including who will take on which responsibilities. If step-by-step feels too daunting, at least identify first steps so you know where to start.
Don’t be afraid to try new things that your partner suggests. You might find joy and value in them. Remember, it’s okay to not always know best and to find alternatives that your whole family can enjoy.

Let's Get Personal

For years, my husband wanted a weekly pizza and movie night. Initially, I resisted because I feared it would lead to unhealthy eating habits and mindless screen time. I was so focused on maintaining our family's nutrition and routines that I couldn't see the potential benefits of his idea.

However, I eventually decided to give it a try, and what I discovered was eye-opening. Family pizza and movie night turned out to be vastly different from what I had imagined. It wasn't about mindless eating in front of the TV; it was about creating a shared experience.

This weekly tradition has become invaluable for our family. It's more than just a meal and a movie; it's a time for us to bond, enjoy each other's company, and have fun together. (Plus, it saves me from having to think about at least one meal each week!)

Movie nights have provided openings for us to guide our kids through important conversations, to share experiences with them, and to provide a low pressure system for having important or difficult conversations.

They have also led to a lot of inside jokes and family quotes, which bring us closer together and enriched our family dynamic.

Embracing my husband's idea showed me that stepping out of my comfort zone and being open to new traditions can lead to wonderful, unexpected outcomes. It's a reminder that in parenting, and in life, flexibility and willingness to try new things can create meaningful and lasting family bonds.

Conclusion: Parenting is a team effort. By communicating openly and finding common ground, you can navigate differences in parenting styles. Embrace the imperfect moments and cherish the time spent together as a family.

Your Food Past Influences Your Present

Key Takeaway: Your childhood food experiences influence your current eating habits and mealtime behaviors. Reflecting on these connections is necessary to make mindful changes for a healthier family relationship with food.

Did you Have a Trapper Keeper?

If so, you’re probably a child of the 80s (like me. Tubular!).

When I was a kid, I often heard the directive “Clean your plate before you get dessert.” The Clean Plate Club (which, incidentally, was established as a propaganda campaign during food shortages of World War I) was a common phrase uttered by many parents. Often tied to the notion of there being “starving children in the world”, eating everything on your plate was used to instill gratitude and prevent waste

Positive and Negative Food Memories

Our childhood food experiences can be both positive and negative.

I have fond memories of gardening with my grandmother and making pie with my mom. These positive experiences can shape how I think about food in wonderful ways.
Negative or traumatic food memories can also linger and influence our behavior. My mom still refuses to eat certain things because of negative childhood experiences tied to those foods.

Habits Carry Forward

Many of us continue these practices with our own children. These past experiences shape how we feed our families today, for better or worse.

But we don’t have to let past experiences dictate our current behavior. By reflecting on our childhood memories and the emotions they evoke, we can make conscious decisions about which behaviors to keep and which to leave behind.

Here’s How

Use the MEAL framework to reflect and reevaluate.

1. Memories: Identify key significant food-related memories from your childhood.

2. Emotions: Note the emotions tied to these memories. How did you feel then and how do you feel now about those experiences?

3. Approaches: How do you personally eat or feed your family today? What is your approach to eating, planning, feeding yourself and those that you love?

4. Learn: From these three previous questions, what did you learn about eating/food/mealtime practices from your past, and what would you like to conscientiously carry forward or leave behind?

Practical Steps

Pause and Reflect: When you notice yourself enforcing a rule or habit, pause and ask if it’s a conscious choice or a relic from the past.

Evaluate and Adjust: Consistently reflect on your choices and make adjustments that better serve your family’s needs.

Bottom Line: By doing this consistently, you can break the cycle of inherited eating habits and create a healthier, more positive relationship with food for yourself and your family.

Nurture Your Child's Natural Eating Instincts

Key Insight: Babies are born with the natural ability to know when they're hungry and when they're full. And you can support this ability by trusting them to feed themselves.

Please Say More

When babies are born, they have an amazing ability to listen to their internal cues of hunger and fullness. They're naturally attuned to these signals and can start eating when hungry and stop when full [1-5]. Studies show that infants can consume nearly the exact amount of calories their bodies need for basic functions. This innate ability is remarkable!

The Parent Problem

The problem is that we, as well-intentioned adults, often struggle to read our kids' signals, especially their signals of fullness.

Without practice and learning these cues, it’s easy to overfeed our children.
Over time, they start to rely on external signals that it's time to start or end eating, rather than their internal ones. This shift makes it harder for them to recognize when they're full.

A Simple Solution

The solution is simple: let your kids feed themselves. When children initiate eating when hungry and stop when full, they maintain their ability to hear those internal cues. This isn't a perfect system, of course, and some kids need help regulating, but when practiced early and often this can help kids retain their natural ability to regulate food intake.

Consider This

Think about the last time you ate out. Did you feel compelled to finish your plate because you paid for it? Or did you eat just because it was noon? These external cues often dictate our eating habits. Similarly, our kids can start to rely on such cues – including our encouragement to “clean your plate”, instead of their internal signals.

Practical Tips for Parents

Here’s how you can support your child’s natural eating instincts:

Set the Right Boundaries: While you control what food is available and when it’s served, let your children decide how much to eat.

Remember that Inconsistency is Normal: Growing is inconsistent business. This means that appetites will also be inconsistent. It's normal for kids to have voracious appetites one day and barely touch their food the next.

Use Language Wisely: Encourage your kids to listen to their bodies. Ask them, "How does your body feel?" "Do you have room for more or are you full?" This helps them focus on those internal signals.

Encourage Reflection: When they stop eating after a few bites and claim to be hungry again soon after, use this as a teaching moment. Explain that this behavior suggests to you that they might not be truly hungry. Tell them that snack/mealtime will be over, for now, and you can revisit eating more later.

Remember, it's not about letting them eat whenever they want. Or holding tight control over all food. The goal is to consistently and regularly guide them to understand their hunger and fullness cues.

By doing this, you help them develop a life-long healthy relationship with food.

The Sweet Spot: How to Spot Hidden Sugars

At a recent party, a decadent candy bar reminded me: while my kids and I enjoy sugary treats (who doesn’t?), it’s the hidden sugars in everyday foods that truly need our attention.

Why It Matters

The real challenge with sugar is not so much the obvious treats (ice cream, candy bars, soda) ... these are exactly what they claim to be: TREATS. Where sugar's effect becomes insidious is all its hidden forms. Those sneaky sugars added into foods where you wouldn't expect them, and aren't looking for them, that consumption can really add up.

Understand & Uncover Hidden Sugars

Identifying hidden sugars isn't always easy, but there are two important tools that anyone can use to guide them through the supermarket jungle. Here's how you can become a sugar-spotting ninja:

1. Read Nutrition Labels: Always start here. Look under the total carbohydrates to find listings for "total sugars" and "added sugars." Total sugars combine naturally occurring sugars (like those in milk and fruits) with any added during processing. Added sugars are, well, just that—extra sweetness thrown in to make a product more appealing.

PRO TIP: Be wary of serving sizes; manufacturers can be tricky by listing a smaller serving size to make the sugar content appear less daunting.

2. Ingredient Lists: This is where you turn detective. Ingredients are listed by quantity, from most to least. You'll find many names for sugar: glucose, fructose, cane sugar, corn syrup, and many others. Some are straightforward, while others, like fruit juice concentrate, might sound healthier than they are.

PRO TIP: More names mean more sugars. Look out for anything ending in ‘-ose,’ syrup, or juice concentrates.

Quick Tips

Be Inquisitive: Always check labels for sugars and serving sizes. As stated above, reducing the serving size means that per serving value of sugar goes down too. If you would normally eat 2-3 times that serving size (because it's so small), then you're eating 2-3 times the sugar as well.

Stay Informed: Know the various names sugars can be listed under. You might be surprised by how many different terms are used for sugar. From dextrose to maltose, the variety is staggering. Keeping an eye out for these can help you make better decisions about what you're really eating.

Prioritize Transparency: Choose products that clearly label sugar content and don't (necessarily) fall for front of pack claims like "healthy" or "no artificial sweetener" or "no added sweeteners". These don't necessarily equate to "low in sugar."

What About the Fake Stuff?

While I won’t dive deep into artificial sweeteners today, it’s worth noting they're also added for sweetness without the calories. They can still trigger a sweet craving, which is something to consider if you're trying to cut down on sweets overall.

Wrap-Up

Being sugar-savvy means enjoying intentional sweets without the unwanted extras. Educate yourself with a sugar name list (here is just one example) and make smarter choices at the supermarket.

Turning Mealtime Criticism Into Constructive Feedback

Trying new recipes is often met with hesitation or outright criticism from kids or family members. Negative responses can deter you from experimenting with different dishes, leaving you feeling frustrated.

Solution: Ask for feedback early and often. This transforms mealtime critique into an opportunity for growth and connection.

How to Collect Feedback

1. Set Expectations: Let your family know you're trying something new, and welcome their opinions. Acknowledge that you're uncertain about the recipe's reception, and their input will help you refine it.

2. Engage Curiosity: Introduce a guessing game by saying, "I added a secret ingredient. Can you guess what it is?" This enhances their tasting skills while making the meal fun.

3. Provide Simple Prompts: Collecting feedback doesn't need to be overly complicated!

- For young kids, use thumbs up or thumbs down.

- Encourage older children to share a descriptive term about texture, flavor, or temperature.

4. Value the Feedback You Get: Encourage your family to explain why they like or dislike the dish, and accept their input gracefully.

Benefits of a Feedback System

There are multiple benefits to developing a feedback system like there. Here are three of the most valuable.

It Builds Trust: When kids see their input is valued, it strengthens their confidence and your relationship.
It Boosts Language & Tasting Skills: Describing the flavors enhances their vocabulary while tasting develops their culinary discernment.
It Prepares You for Critique: Anticipating feedback helps you handle criticism constructively and adapt your meals for the future.

Final Thoughts

Turning mealtime criticism into constructive feedback builds valuable skills, enhances trust, and makes experimenting with food less daunting. So, next time you're serving up something new, don't be afraid to ask, "What do you think?"

Handling Food Value Clashes Gracefully

When your food values clash with family members or close friends, the key is to stay flexible and understand their perspective. Most conflicts can be navigated without drama.

Why It Matters: For the most part, as a parent you have more influence on your child's food habits than others. Grandparents and relatives have less impact because they spend less time with your kids. But when they do have more influence and their food values differ from your own, choosing when and how to address those differences deserves careful thought.

Real-Life Example

My mother-in-law is an amazing cook. When we visit, she prepares elaborate meals and serves dessert every night. At home, we don't have dessert daily, preferring a rotation of fruit night, nothing night, and dessert night.

But because our time with Grandma is so limited, when we're at Grandma's house we follow her dessert rules! Given the limited time we spend with her, it's not worth creating conflict over dessert.

But How Do You Handle Clashes If You Have To?

Share your goals: Explain your family's food values and why they matter.
Understand their perspective: Ask about their food habits and what they value.
Find common ground: Look for areas where you can agree or compromise.
Choose your battles: Focus on the long-term impact of mealtime habits. If it's minimal, let it go.

Quick Tip

If someone has more influence over your child's eating habits, consider having a conversation about your food values. Approach it with curiosity and an open mind. Avoid trying to change their habits unless necessary.

What’s Next?

Next time you're at a family gathering, think about whether the food conflict is worth addressing. If it is, use a calm and understanding approach to discuss your food values. If not, enjoy the meal and let it go.

4 Simple Ways to Add Diversity to Your Family's Meals

WHY DIVERSITY MATTERS: Eating a wide variety of foods leads to better health. Yet if you're like most of us, finding ways to incorporate greater diversity into your existing routines can be challenging. But it doesn't have to be complicated.

LET’S DIG IN

Here are four easy-to-implement tips to help you and your family enjoy a more varied diet.

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1. Shop Local and Seasonal

Shopping at farm stands, farmers' markets, or growing a few herbs on your porch not only supports local producers but also ensures you get the freshest food. Seasonal produce tends to taste better and encourages a wider variety of foods on your plate.

Why It Matters: buying what's in season encourages a natural rotation of foods throughout the year . Plus, local, in-season foods are more flavorful. A tomato fresh from the vine during its growing season is vastly different from one shipped from across the country the rest of the year.

Pro Tip: Even if farmers markets are not accessible, grocery stores increasingly look to purchase from local vendors – and they often label these foods. Look for Locally Grown signs at your closest store.

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2. Shop Grocery Store Sales

Shopping sales can be a great way to add variety to your meals while also saving money. Sales usually mean the store has excess inventory, which might not be there next week. By buying items on sale, you're naturally introducing different foods into your diet.

Why It Matters: Shopping sales helps you save money and diversify your meals. Stores often discount different items each week, giving you a reason to explore new foods.

Pro Tip: Try to be brand nonspecific. Instead of buying the same type of apple, try different varieties like Fuji, Honeycrisp, or Braeburn. Make it a game with your kids—who can find the tastiest apple?

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3. Try Different Varieties

Eating the same foods can get boring quickly. To add diversity without much effort, try buying different varieties of a food or different brands. This works with fruits, vegetables, and pantry staples like chips and crackers.

Why It Matters: Trying different varieties adds excitement to your meals and helps your family explore new flavors. It's also a simple way to encourage your kids to try new things.

Pro Tip: Turn it into a fun activity. Do a taste test with your kids, comparing different types of the same food. This approach helps your children understand and appreciate diverse flavors without stress.

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4. Plan Broad Meal Categories

Planning specific recipes can be overwhelming. Instead, focus on broad meal categories like pasta, tacos, or rice bowls. This approach allows for flexibility and customization, making it easier to add variety to your family's meals.

Why It Matters: Broad meal categories give you more freedom to mix and match ingredients. This flexibility makes meal planning less stressful and encourages you to experiment with new foods.

Pro Tip: Tacos and rice bowls are great for customization. Set out different toppings and let everyone build their own meal. It’s an easy way to let everyone have a little of what they want, without catering to their every demand.

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LET'S WRAP UP

Incorporating diversity into your family's diet doesn't need to be complicated. Small changes, like shopping seasonally or trying new brands, can make a big difference. What's your favorite way to add variety to your meals? Share your tips!